On countless occasions I’ve been told that I’m not a ‘girly-girl’ because I dress in mostly black. This idea is completely ridiculous! Since when does a colour dictate your femininity? The number one definition of feminine is “Belonging to the female gender”. Well, that’s a check, though it isn’t always true. The second, “Having qualities traditionally ascribed to women, as sensitivity or gentleness”. This one I question a bit but generally it’s fine. But why is it that wearing blue or brown instead of pink or purple males you less ‘feminine?”
|Source – Little black dress? I think so!|
A great example of femininity is the ‘little black dress’. Generally believed to be of the origins of Coco Channel’s design in the nineteen twenties it’s considered a stable by many women and is often described as simple and elegant; elegance generally referring to grace and dignity. That sounds rather ‘feminine’ to me, as described by the second definition. But, oh no, it’s black. It mustn’t be feminine.
When one pictures a Goth, a person who doesn’t know too much about the subculture they tend to either picture a Mansonite, a romantic goth or some of the more hardcore fashions (Fetish influences, or heavily boots and spiked everything). Un-contrary to popular (mainstream) belief there are so much more fashions, a lot of those being more “stereotypical” feminine. Victorian Goth, Romantic or even Trad Goth.
Then again, who is to dictate what your opinion of femininity is? If wearing long combat boots and a leather jacket makes you feel feminine and that’s how you wish to feel – I suppose it doesn’t matter.
In the end I suppose it just really annoys me when I get dressed up in a frilly blouse and pretty frilly skirt, lace stockings with Mary-janes on and someone calls me masculine because I’m in black. Maybe there’s just something I wont ever understand about mainstream culture. How about you, do you have any strange stories to tell?