This is a post in the series of The Goth Challenge altered by
Darkstalker Girl from a former Lolita Challenge. Find more information here.
While, I obviously don’t feel that I’m the ultimate all knowing Goth (I know way too many people that could kick my ass in that area) I do wish that I had done some things better when I was younger.
|This photo is from Longhorndave on Flickr|
Stop Trying To Be Other People
You may think that you’ll be happy when you’re as ‘beautiful’ or as ‘interesting’ as someone else, but you never will be. It’s hard, but you need to be yourself to be happy. It takes so much longer and so much hard work to find yourself but in the end it’s worth it.
On that note.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
It’s hurts to compare yourself with others and it isn’t worth it, because you will never know the whole story – just the shell. It took me the longest time to realise that I just have to accept myself as I am because unless I have a facelift, I’m going to be this person for the rest of my life. Lots of people you love may look awesome with winged eyeliner. But that may not work for you and that’s okay. You can look kickass in something else!
Other People In The Subculture Are Just That: People
They may seem intimidating at first. You may put them on a pedastool as better than you at dressing or doing makeup; whatever. But they are also people that make mistakes and have flaws. Putting people higher than you just makes you feel bad when you can’t measure up to what they do, or makes you fall harder when they have a complete different opinion than yourself.
We’re all still growing and learning, making mistakes and remembering. That’s why it’s rather silly that we only give tips to the new-comers. Every one has something to learn (even if they present themselves as the most elitist dick, you couldn’t think possible – okay, that was a bit too snappy).
Anyway, what do you wish you knew coming into your subculture? Do you have any tips for me?