A Question For My Readers: Reader Appreciation Time!

Here, have a pictures of my cat attempting to escape my love, as some strange metaphor for my love for you guys!
It’s officially reader appreciation time, over here in The Walrus Room! I’ve always held the belief or, at least, wish that this blog could become more of a community than an all-about-me-dot-com. Community in itself is a large part of what being a Goth and/or an Alt person is about. The idea of “Goth” wouldn’t exist without the banding together of people to create an amazing movement. 

From the comments I read (I may not rely all the time but I certainly read and stalk!), I know you guys have your own awesome tips and opinions. Now is the time for you to show off your – oh god, I felt the sudden urge to write skillz – and have some one-on-one with your fellow Walrus Roomies. I will post an blog-post combining my favourites. (With links back to you lovely dears, of course!)

So, my question to you is:

If you could give any piece of knowledge or advice to another Goth, what would it be?

Alternatively, if you think this post contains too much slang, and bad quips I would love to analyse your criticism (because that has literally been my last feels-like-forever with Uni assessments looming closer). And if you didn’t notice, that was an ironic quip where I try to covertly explain my shameless absence.

Don’t worry, I’ll stop now.



  1. Anonymous
    October 17, 2013 / 10:24 am

    Don't try to 'out-goth' others, and don't pay attention to those who do. 'Goth' isn't a competition, and anyone who claims otherwise is silly. Just be yourself: wear the stuff you want to wear, listen to the music you enjoy listening to, and hang out with the people you consider your friends.
    That would be my advise.


  2. October 17, 2013 / 1:28 pm

    Advice, hrmmm. Don't take yourself too seriously and over analyzed yourself to the point of putting yourself in a tiny box. Move around and stretch your legs, just live your life the way you want……goth or no goth. <3

  3. October 17, 2013 / 3:24 pm

    Don't worry about not being the gothiest being out there, or not dressing all-goth, all the time. Take time to explore it for yourself, and have fun doing it!

    Oh, and your eyeliner will never be straight. It's not worth the bother. 😉

  4. October 17, 2013 / 3:34 pm

    ENJOY your gothiness/gothness/whatever, and don't let other people's opinions about what goth is or is not ruin your fun!! Goth is NOT a pass/fail class, nor is it a cookie-cutter subculture. If someone criticizes you for not being "goth enough" (whatever that is), a good answer might be, "I'm unique! What are YOU?"

    And I highly recommend getting a shirt (like mine!) that says, "It's OK to be jealous. Not everyone can be me." 😉

  5. October 17, 2013 / 4:07 pm

    Don't be afraid to break the rules! If you want to wear striped leggings with a pink flamingo top *looks at self* DO IT! Don't feel like you have to subscribe to someone else's notion of what Goth should look like. Stay true to your own dark self, no matter how corny that sounds.

  6. October 17, 2013 / 5:12 pm

    You look so fantastically lovely in that photo, Ms Walrus. What a beautiful smile.

    Like everyone else, I would urge everyone to be the goth they want to be, without fear of repercussions or future embarrassment. Also, the avoidance of labels can be useful. Although I troll goth blogs all the time and actively cultivate a more 'gothy' aesthetic, I do not call myself a goth. Some people may have more affinity for the term than I (and there is nothing wrong with that at all), but I dislike defining myself too much as it feels too constricting.

    For example, I have been asked a few times if I was goth, to which I reply "No; I'm Sith. Darth Maul is my fashion inspiration." Which gets blank looks from some and high fives from others, so I feel it works.

    Back to advice. Trawl the internet and create a folder of fashion that suits your lifestyle. Although sumptuous Victoriana replete with bustles and dramatic makeup may be gorgeous to look at and fill your heart with longing, it's not quite practical as a student who walks to class with a backpack. Even if one purchases such an amazing outfit it is unlikely that it will be worn much on a day to day basis, which can be a little disheartening when one just wants to look darkly attractive upon leaving the house. So if that is your life, look for more casual gothy outfits that you can see being practical to you.

    Third: remember that accessories can often make all the difference. A basic monochrome ensemble can instantly be 'gothed up' with the addition of a belt/boots/nailpolish/interesting silver jewellery.

    Lastly, just enjoy your own personal style. Remember that clothing can be fun; music is amazing and your life need nnot echo anyone else's.

  7. October 17, 2013 / 11:21 pm

    First of all, I love that purple colour of you hair <3
    Second of all, to answer your question, my advice is: don't you ever, ever, ever think you "should" do or prove or think or say something. Be free. You're allowed to dress mainstream if you want to, and to go back to goth the next day if you feel like it. Don't be afraid to look like one of those new-goth people who wear studs and crosses just because they're trendy: if you like something, just put it on. Don't let anyone tell you how you should dress: as long as you like your clothes and you feel confident in them, it's ok.
    In short: do whatever makes you feel good and do not take the subculture as a list of "rules" you should follow in order to be accepted. Intelligent and nice people will accept you however you dress, because it's not your appearance that matters, not to the right people anyways.
    Ahah, I wish I had followed this advice when I was a teen :D!

  8. October 17, 2013 / 11:47 pm

    'Why you should care of what others think of you, when they don't care what you think of them?' this is kinda my own mantra or something… I don't care how other people dress or what they do (as long as it won't harm anyone) so why should I feel bad or feel guilty (which I still do for some reason..) of what I wear or what music I listen to?

    So my advice would be to not take it so seriously what other people think of you cause no matter what you are, how you dress, what music you listen to, what job you have, you will never be perfect. Cause nobody is.

  9. October 18, 2013 / 3:59 am

    Keep being weird, keep pushing the envelope, keep exploring. That's half the reason we joined this subculture to begin with. Keep searching for the new, even though you've already found "where you belong." I feel we're too tied down with tradition–even though there's new stuff happening all the time in the genre! Don't relive the past or your youth, there's so much going on right now.

  10. October 18, 2013 / 10:46 am

    If you feel that you're goth then you are never mind what anyone else says. Sure you may not look it for whatever reason, weight, finances, work, school etc but it's who you are inside. I love the goth subculture, the fashion, the music but because I am very overweight and long-term unemployed I just try to make sure I dress in dark colours even if it may not be specifically goth. I have a dress that I love that has a peach and white bird print. It's not the most goth thing I own but if I can be bothered to do make-up and add jewellery then it can have a goth feel.

    Basically wear what you want. If you're goth, it's automatically goth-friendly 🙂 don't limit yourself.

  11. October 18, 2013 / 10:50 am

    Be yourself and stay true to yourself and don't judge other people. Something you could say to anyone really 😉

  12. October 18, 2013 / 11:00 am

    Don't be petrified of words like "cliche" or "stereotype". One person's negativity, is another's "staple" or "must have".
    We all had that stage in our lives that seems like one big embarrassment, but later becomes a point that in the big picture you'll ultimately look back and cherish, because it's *the* point in which we truly became intimate with our individual style– goth or not.

  13. October 20, 2013 / 3:52 am

    Advice, hmm…
    It's ok if the music you like isn't typically goth. If you like it, listen to it. Of course, you should have some basic knowledge of the well-known bands such as Bauhaus, but that doesn't mean that's all you can listen to.
    Also, be careful when trying to climb stairs while wearing a trench coat, long skirt, platforms, or very high heels. It's very easy to trip. My trench coat has tried to kill me on several occasions.

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