|Tempted to use this photo from her blog but alas I used the pretty-as-hell one situated here.|
Are there any online stores that you would suggest for those that are plus-sized and/or alternative?
I’m an habitual thrifter. It is so much easier to find clothing that
fits and is my style from second-hand shops. However, what I DO have
trouble with is underthings. For this, I prefer What Katie Did, although
they don’t go up to extremely high plus sizes, unfortunately.
Could you give any tips for gaining body-positivity, for accepting yourself or improving your mentality in general?
About a year ago, I made the decision to be happy and push away negative
thoughts and feelings about the way I look (a must when you are
disabled, else you will just end up in this perpetual cycle of
self-hatred and blame). A lot of people like to give themselves
self-affirmation statements, telling themselves they are smart, and
beautiful, and loved. I don’t (it makes me feel silly?) but I find it
good to look at myself, at all the lumps and random hairs and stretch
marks, and marvel that there’s no one in the universe that looks like
me. What I find the most helpful, though, is interpersonal support –
helping other people with their body image helps me too. We need to help
Also, stay away from lolita forums. Just do it.
Do you think it’s hard or intimidating being a plus-sized goth
in what seems to be a subculture/s that idolise models such as Razor
Candy/etc that hold unreal expectations?
I actually don’t feel intimidated by goths at all. It’s other
subcultures (most infamously, lolitas) and society at large that
intimidates me in regards to myself. Of course, there are people here
and there, but I’ve never felt unwanted by the goth community at large
for daring to be…well, large. For every Razor Candi, there’s plenty of
“normal-sized” goth idols (Dita von Teese, for example).
Do you have any models, artists, or musicians you’d like to
bring attention to? Preferaby in relationship to body-positivity, plus
sized fashion/modeling, inspiration etc.
Tumblr in general. The fatspo, fatshion, etc tags on tumblr are
sometimes full of horrible things, but more times than not are filled
with fat people being fat and awesome. Redefiningbodyimage is one of my
I have to say, though, if Rebel Wilson asked me to marry her, I totally
would. (The fridge would still wear the pants in this relationship)
If you could give advice to yourself as a younger alternative person on confidence and acceptance, what would you say?
Stop watching daytime TV, for God’s sake.
Do you think the subculture needs to modify its outlook on plus-sized models/musicians?
Society (not to mention ~the patriarchy~) needs to alter its view of
people in general. No, it’s not fucking appropriate to scold me (or
other people of size) for eating in public or praise us for ordering a
salad (hey dipshit I LOVE salad). It’s never ok to shame anyone for
their bodies or choices. “It’s not healthy?” firstly, bullshit,
secondly, none of your business. In the goth community, I have found far
more acceptance than I thought I would.
Is there anything else you’d like to mention?
I just want to mention people who say “you’re fat.” Really?! I hadn’t
noticed! Thank you, person! You have changed my life! Surely I shall see
myself as the blimp I most truly am. Bless your honesty, dickhead.
One last thing – Never let anyone silence your voice. “It’s hard for
thin people too?” Tell them to fuck off. You have a RIGHT to take up the
space your body needs. You have the RIGHT to eat, and dance, and wear
revealing clothing if you want to. You have the RIGHT to complain about
people’s oppressive behaviours. There is nothing wrong with the way you look and are, and no one can tell you otherwise.